Instead of being custom to your habits, customize new habits. Don’t take the cab, walk the extra thirty minutes, face new challenges. That walk will open up an entirely different thought process. When you’re scared of something realize you’re onto something new, its time to change. Instead of being committed to the couch and the phone. Commit to a gym, commit to a relationship, commit to eating healthy, commit to things that will change your mind, body and soul. Always decide to be flexible to dodge the obstacles and have fun with overcoming who you thought you were. Have the desire to experience a new day with new changes!
The connection to yourself is the hardest thing in the world to keep. Especially living in todays world, with our attention spans being minimized by television, social media, cell phones, the need to be successful.
We are loosing sight of ourself, or even lost it already. Our eyes are paying attention to everything but the reflection in the mirror. When we do look in a mirror we see what everyone else says about us, looking at flaws only.
The only way to delete each thought is to recognize what the mind is doing. Place yourself in front of your computer and notice your ability to see outside of the all those windows (thoughts). You don’t need to click on the window and join the subscription that will open ads ( attachments to the scenarios that don’t exist anymore). Recognize the thoughts and be here, in the present time.
By starting with “ but I can’t, I don’t have time, I don’t have this, I wouldn’t be able to, it won’t work anyway” Any idea turns into complete darkness just from our usual mindset. No-one in the world has the capacity to turn off your lightbulb,
you do it all on your own.
Then, when we’re living in complete darkness, surrounded by bad habits. We cry for blame, its all everyone else’s fault, or everything else’s fault. When the only person who diminished each idea started and ended with yourself. If we chose to keep the lightbulb on we’re kicking that habit to the curve, there is no way it would be able to bring any darkness. You decided to pay the light bill.
Strength comes from growing stronger. Weakness grows from sulking and wishful thinking. We think sadness or depression is the worse thing in the world when in reality were confusing it with paying attention to ourselves. That step you’re sitting on isn’t sadness its the one moment that’s going to give you the power you need to get through every setback.
We aren’t failing when we sit we are progressing.
Use this time to gain a different perception than that average thought process. We’ll tend to stay away from people when we feel like we aren’t winning, so we don’t have anything to share. When in fact its people that give us that jolt of energy we need.
Making conscious decisions allows you to be aboundingly present. When we are so focused on where we are going, what is the next move, trying to figure out what people are thinking, feeling. We loose all sight of whats right in front of your eyes.
“ I am beautiful, I am amazing, I am talented, I am kind, I am who I want to be”
Let that become your new motto, waiting for someone to tell you you’re beautiful, when they do, that compliment will last for 5 seconds. The more you look for something that people aren't giving you, you will never feel complete.
He wrote “actually setting goals for yourself will be the most adult thing you will ever do. You get to set an objective and follow through. Every decision you make will only be for that goal you want to accomplish. You will build strength in yourself rather than question your decisions. On the other hand, a New years goal is just a stepping stone, its a question of what will you change for that year. While an “ adult goal “ pertains to lifetime changes.”
While she reads his messages she looks up at herself in the mirror questioning all her life decisions, raising her eye brow to herself.
Theres no such thing as being comfortable, you’re comfort zone no longer exists. In fact being uncomfortable is a new challenge for yourself every single day. Speaking in front of 30 people, will get easier.
NOT GOING TO EVENTS BECAUSE YOU’RE AN INTROVERT IS NOT AN OPTION ANYMORE.
You become more responsible, without realizing it just comes natural.